The period between sentencing and surrender is the most important window for family preparation. Here's what needs to happen — practically, financially, and emotionally.
Talking to Your Spouse or Partner
Your partner needs to know the full timeline, the complete financial situation, what they can and cannot access, how communication works, visiting procedures, and what to do if something goes wrong. Plan multiple conversations over several weeks — financial, legal, communication, and emotional topics each need their own space. Acknowledge the difficulty explicitly; don't minimize; don't make promises you can't keep.
Talking to Children by Age
- Under 6: Concrete, simple language. "Away for a while." Focus on what stays the same. Repeat conversations over time.
- Ages 7–12: They know "prison" is a consequence. They need explicit "this is not your fault" plus how contact works and daily life continuity.
- Teenagers: Deserve more honesty. Include them in planning where appropriate. Secrecy with teenagers backfires. Let them ask hard questions.
Financial Preparation
- Durable Power of Attorney: the single most important legal document before surrender. Must be durable; draft with an attorney who understands incarceration-related requirements.
- All recurring bills on autopay; joint account access; inform spouse of all debts.
- Authorize someone to file taxes; review insurance and beneficiary designations.
- Commissary account: set up deposit mechanism before surrender. $50–100/month minimum.
The First 30 Days After Surrender
- First 24–72 hours: little to no communication while intake processing continues.
- End of first week: phone access and TRULINCS email approval process begins.
- Second/third weeks: children often begin showing behavioral changes. Maintain routines aggressively.
- End of first month: communication patterns, working financial arrangements, and a functioning routine should be established.
- Caution: do not make major financial, housing, or relationship decisions in the first 30 days.